Sometimes I can’t shut the fuck up. I get so excited about the words that are about to come out of my mouth that I can’t hold onto them any longer. I just blurt them out. Sometimes in the middle of what someone else is saying. It’s rude and inconsiderate, I realize that. However, sometimes I can’t help myself.
My story telling skills can be maddening. Brevity is not one of my strong points. It’s something I struggle with in my writing as well. I feel like every little nuance and detail is germane to the story and I have to explain them thoroughly. But most people would be happier with the cliff notes.
Diarrhea of the mouth has actually caused me talk my way out of getting laid. Sometimes I oversell way too hard. I have to get another story in and keep pushing the envelope of what I can get away with a woman. I feel its part of my charm. I’ve had numerous women beg me not to talk so much. They have literally told me I would be better off sitting there and looking pretty.
I have a tendency to want to dominate my interactions with others. I always have such amazing and interesting content to add to every conversation. At least I think so. The reality is I need to shut up and listen more often than not.
I can learn so much more by listening to others and what they have to offer. When I’m in a conversation and I hear something I feel I know a lot about, I tend to interject before they finish to make myself seem more intelligent or witty.
In the past I have been very opinionated and judgmental. I have been trying to keep those opinions to myself lately. Unless someone really asks for it. Then they will get an earful they may not have planned for.
I’m the type of person who is rarely at a lack of words when it comes to dishing out advice. I’ll give you more than you ever imagined. I don’t realize that so often people just need to vent and get it all out. They aren’t looking for my thoughts on the issue. They only want me to listen. I mean really listen. Not just keep quiet long enough for them to finish their sentence just so I can speak again.
Listening is the most important skill for building all relationships. People want to know they are being heard and understood. It’s the basis for Sales 101. Understanding the customers needs. Any idiot can ramble on, talking to hear themselves speak.
Truly listening and appreciating the wants and needs of the person you are interacting with is priceless. The more I work on this skill, the more I create fruitful and long lasting relationships in all aspects of my life. Which is a key to creating a fulfilling, meaningful existence.