As I walked out of my office to my car, I picked up my dog to put her in the backseat and I noticed someone had smacked into my rear bumper. There was plastic on the ground from my headlight and my bumper was dented . I walked around to in hopes of finding a note from the person who hit my unattended car. I wasn’t shocked when when I didn’t find one.
Now I’m sitting at the auto body shop at 2:30 on a Thursday, waiting for the guy to come out of his meeting and give me an estimate. I’m bored and annoyed because I have to be here dealing with this. I had to come in here to do a bunch of shit I could have easily done over the phone with them. My day could be filled with way more productive activities; who’s the asshole that decided this ridiculous process was worth anyone’s time?
Then it hit me. Why the fuck am I complaining about some first world problems? My life’s real hard. I’m getting an estimate for damage on my car when most people would be working. My life allows me the freedom to take care of life’s annoying little inconveniences whenever I choose. I make those decisions for me.
At face value, I should be super grateful and realize how fortunate I am to have the time and resources to take care of mishaps like this when they occur. Others aren’t always that lucky. My life’s a cakewalk in a lot of ways.
It’s all this kind of bullshit that so many people, including myself, allow to ruin our day or frustrate us. But life happens, that’s just the way it is. The sooner we learn that lesson and roll with the bullshit we’re dealt, the sooner we can get on with focusing on how great life is.
A couple of years ago I would have been pissed off and argued with the people at the shop for wasting my time. Now I accept it and go about my day. I’m not telling this to prove how mature and well balanced I am, because I’m certainly neither of those things. I’m saying this to create perspective.
18 months ago I was laying in a hospital bed cut open from my sternum to my stomach, worrying if my cancer had spread. Now im blessed enough to be here today being annoyed because I lost 20 minutes of my day. Seems crazy to let this bother me when I frame the situation in that context.
Life’s bullshit will always get in our way, there’s no way around it. Our problems scale depending on how severe they are and how capable we are of handling them. The thing to remember is every problem is temporary, even the most serious ones. Eventually circumstances will change and those problems will no longer be an issue. Even the sickest person’s problems end once they pass on and become energy again. That’s the cycle of life.
Stressing and being angry only robs any chance of happiness in the present and possibly the future depending on how we deal with it Whatever it is, it will pass. I forget all to often I had cancer 18 months ago. Sometimes it’s nice to remind myself I’m going to die one day. It forces me to live and experience all I can today. That’s the purpose of life, to experience all that we can in the short time we have. Good and bad, it all writes our story, it’s how life works.