Rules exist in our minds. The rhetoric we have been taught for all of our lives has shaped who we’ve become. Very few people ( including myself at times) know how to think and feel on their own. We base our thoughts and feelings off of what society has shown us. Unable to breakdown ideals to their most basic principles and evaluate them for what they are. Never looking for a deeper understanding, because somewhere along the way we were taught to process events in our life as good or bad and we accepted that with certainty.
Humans have a nasty tendency to view circumstances in our world as personal. Only taking into consideration how our live’s are effected at the present time. However, there is a paradigm shift which starts with perspective. We can look at occurrences as corrections or validations of our actions. If something doesn’t work out it doesn’t necessarily mean it’s bad. Instead, it could be viewed as a sign it wasn’t right for us at present or we need to change our approach.
For example, I’ve destroyed all of my intimate relationships in the past. Yet I complain about not being able to find someone to share my life with. I continue to look for girls in all the wrong places. If nothing changes, nothing changes. What didn’t work for me then, still isn’t going to work for me today. My methods and reasoning are flawed. It’s like trying to open your front door with the same wrong key, over and over again. No one would ever try that, it would be insane. It’s life’s way of telling me to try something new.
Building something new is hard. I don’t know the outcome, so I’m apprehensive. I’ve sought out routine and comfort, fearing the results of trying something new. I’ve been afraid I knew better and shamed myself for trying something new only to fail.
I woke up and realized I had the “things” I wanted for so long; only to realize those “things” weren’t what gave my life meaning. They validated my insecurities and padded my ego, but never gave me a sense of fulfillment or being whole – That can only be found by living a life you are proud of. Filling life with as much of the content that truly feeds your soul. Everything else will eventually lose it’s appeal. Looks fade, cars get old and money can’t fill the voids inside. (more…)