Need a Spot Bro?

You’d think hearing the words “they all just want to suck your dick” would be greatest thing anyone has ever said to you.  But not on this day.

I was 26 at the time and started working out at a new gym in Philly.  I quickly became friends with a bunch of guys there.  One guy in particular, I would see almost daily.  We would bullshit every time I saw him and we became close (Fast forward a couple years later and he would actually save my life).

I remember he was supposed to meet me and some friends at a bar one night, but had to bail. I told him “that was gay” and he should “stop being a fag”.  That’s how I talked to my guy friends at 26. Sometimes I still talk to them that way, I’m a heathen and a relic, I know.

Eventually he asked me to stop calling him gay and fag. I laughed thinking he was being overly sensitive.  A few weeks later I found out he actually was gay. I was very surprised at first, but got over it quickly.  He was actually more shocked when I figured it out and asked him about It. He wanted to know who told me and he danced around the issue at first.  I didn’t give a fuck, he was my friend.  See how accepting I am?

I never spent too much time around gay people before, so unless it was blatantly obvious, I was oblivious to the fact.  As he got more comfortable with me knowing his sexual orientation he introduced me to all kinds of fun new phrases like big chaser and power bottom.

Finally one day he let me in on a little secret. Almost all of the Guys I was friendly with at my gym were gay too.  Then proceeded to tell me they weren’t my friends but they were interested in me.  He could have been fucking with me to see me reaction, but I felt sad.  All this time I thought I was making friends, it turns out they wanted to have sex with me.

I was so confused, and a little hurt I suppose.  I guess I found of what it was like to be a woman for once in my life.  Thinking all of these people were nice to you because their your friend, when really they just wanted your ass.

I’m not the type of straight guy who thinks all gay men want him or anything ridiculous and delusional like that.  I’m not that much of a troglodyte.  I’m secure in who I am and realize most people understand boundaries if you set them correctly.  But I found out how naive and ignorant I was to the world around me.  Guess I probably still am.

3 Day Volume Training


This is a workout I put together for a friend of mine who was only able to train 3 days per week.   He is someone I would consider to have moderate to advanced experience with training.  In my opinion a Push/Pull/Legs split is extremely effect.  I think this is an approach anyone with at least a years experience in the gym will be able to handle.  This is a plan for hypertrophy.  As always, diet is incredibly important.  Periworkout nutrition is also key for recovery from these workouts.


  1. Incline DB Press – warm up 2 sets of 15 then I want you to do 3-4 sets of 8 reps, increasing weight until you can no longer get 8 reps.  Then I want you do do a double dropset on the last set dropping the weight 15-20% each time.
  2. Decline Hammer Press or Decline DB – 4 sets in the following manner 10,8,6,6. Last set I want a double rest pause.  So after your 6 (which should be very difficult) you will rest take about 10-15 breaths then bang out as many as you can with the same weight.  Then repeat that process one more time
  3. Incline Flyes with manual resistance – 3 sets On these take a weight that you can do perfectly for about 10 and just do 10 normal flyes. Straighten your arms out at the top and you will feel an unbelievable flex and pump (from the last exercise) in your chest. Then drop the weight and do 5-6 reps where your partner pushes you down and you resist hard. It is important that your partner only push down ½ way, do not keep pushing all the way down into the stretched position or you will get injured
  4. Ladder Push up with Cambered Bar – 3 sets
  5. Side DB Raises – 6 sets of 10


  1. Bent over DB rears delts – 6 sets of 10
  2. BB Shrugs – 4 sets of 12-15. I want you to do each set as the following way.  The bar in front of you for 12-15 reps then put the bar behind you and another  10 reps.  That is one set
  3. French Press – 4 x 10 last set double drop set
  4. Dips – 3 sets to failure


  1. T-bar Rows – 2 warm up sets of 15. Then 4 worksets of 8.  Last set dropset of 3
  2. Wide Grip pulldowns facing away – 4 sets 12,10,8,8 Last set double drop set These are done facing away so your knees are not under the pads, so you will not be able to do more than your body weight and stay seated.
  3. Rack Pulls – 4 sets using heavyweight 10,8,5,5 . Make sure to keep good form with these as to avoid injury.  Start out with bar around knee level with all the weight is starting on the glutes and pull the weight off the bar keeping back straight until you are in full standing position.  Use this to build density and thickness
  4. Seated Machine Pullovers – 4 sets of 10-12. I want you to really focus on the contraction and use a 3 second position and really squeeze at the bottom of the movement.  Then a true 3 second negative.  You may have to do less weight to achieve this tempo, but really focus on making the tempo.
  5. Pinwheel curls – 5 sets of 8. I want only a 45 second rest between sets.  Once again really focus on the contraction at the top and a slow 3 second negative Don’t use the tempo this guy is using or the momentum, but just wanted you to see what they were in case you didn’t
  6. Incline DB Curls – 3 x 8 Last set double dropset.  Once again really focus on the contraction at the top and a slow 3 second negative


  1. RDL’s – 2 sets warm up with 15 reps. Then 3 sets of 10.  Really warm up your hamstring with this and on the last set try to hit some good weight with reps and keep form perfect
  2. Split Squats – 4 sets of 8
  3. Squats – 5 sets 12,10,8,6,6 Keep good form and make sure your knee is good and warmed up. I would prefer you to foam roll your quads before you start this workout to help with any issues you may have.
  4. Leg extension -4 x15 Last set double drop set, pump out as many as you can even if you are only getting half reps. I want you to really burn out here and push as much as you can to really get the blood pump and get all the growth factors and nutrients in your quads
  5. Standing Calf raise – 4 x 12


  1. Standing One legged Bodyweight calf raises – 4×12

If you’re looking for a challenging and effective hypertrophy program this is one I would suggest.  Hit me up if you have any questions.  I would love to hear your results from my program.