Today is my 18 month check up at the oncologist. Every three months I come here for a full day of tests and appointments. Most of the day I’m sitting in waiting rooms working to keep my mind off the fact I’m surrounded by people who are dying.
I’m one of the fortunate ones. I only needed two surgeries to get rid of my liver cancer, no chemo or radiation. I’ve been given another chance at life. I’d say a second chance, but this is probably my 50th.
When I think about how many chances at life I’ve received I’m grateful. But, I’m also very frustrated with myself. Life’s precious and I know that, yet I don’t treat it as such. I continue to make the same mistakes repeatedly, wasting years of my life.
I spend too much time on social media, I do drugs I said I wouldn’t do anymore, I continue relationships that aren’t healthy and run a business that makes me unhappy. I lack passion and kowtow to fear. I settle for the status quo of “good enough.”
What kind of life is that? From the outside, people may think I live a good, comfortable and sometimes indulgent life. That may be true in comparison to others. But, I’m not living the life I truly want to live.
The truth is, I’m not exactly sure what the life I want to live looks like. I’m still experimenting with what works for me. This could all be a symptom of my age; coming up on the midlife crisis and searching for meaning. Some existential belief that I need to leave my mark on this world or I won’t have lead a life worthy of my years. I’m not sure.
But today, I received another clean bill of health and for that, I’m grateful.