You’d think hearing the words “they all just want to suck your dick” would be greatest thing anyone has ever said to you. But not on this day.
I was 26 at the time and started working out at a new gym in Philly. I quickly became friends with a bunch of guys there. One guy in particular, I would see almost daily. We would bullshit every time I saw him and we became close (Fast forward a couple years later and he would actually save my life).
I remember he was supposed to meet me and some friends at a bar one night, but had to bail. I told him “that was gay” and he should “stop being a fag”. That’s how I talked to my guy friends at 26. Sometimes I still talk to them that way, I’m a heathen and a relic, I know.
Eventually he asked me to stop calling him gay and fag. I laughed thinking he was being overly sensitive. A few weeks later I found out he actually was gay. I was very surprised at first, but got over it quickly. He was actually more shocked when I figured it out and asked him about It. He wanted to know who told me and he danced around the issue at first. I didn’t give a fuck, he was my friend. See how accepting I am?
I never spent too much time around gay people before, so unless it was blatantly obvious, I was oblivious to the fact. As he got more comfortable with me knowing his sexual orientation he introduced me to all kinds of fun new phrases like big chaser and power bottom.
Finally one day he let me in on a little secret. Almost all of the Guys I was friendly with at my gym were gay too. Then proceeded to tell me they weren’t my friends but they were interested in me. He could have been fucking with me to see me reaction, but I felt sad. All this time I thought I was making friends, it turns out they wanted to have sex with me.
I was so confused, and a little hurt I suppose. I guess I found of what it was like to be a woman for once in my life. Thinking all of these people were nice to you because their your friend, when really they just wanted your ass.
I’m not the type of straight guy who thinks all gay men want him or anything ridiculous and delusional like that. I’m not that much of a troglodyte. I’m secure in who I am and realize most people understand boundaries if you set them correctly. But I found out how naive and ignorant I was to the world around me. Guess I probably still am.