There are very few things quite as powerful as your gut instinct. It’s amazing how intuitive we really are as humans. How much our body gives us so many signs and clues as to what we should and shouldn’t be doing if we truly pay attention.
The obvious things that hold us back from truly following our gut are fear and doubt. Those two things are a son-of-a-bitch. They can wreak havoc on your outlook and life. We all can very easily persuade ourselves to think that gut feeling is just a pipe dream. Perhaps we started to late for it to work, or its too difficult a task for us. Those things may all very well be true. However, no one ever truly knows unless they try.
Wayne Gretzky said “you miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.” I am a firm believer in this affirmation. There are so many points in my life that I look back on with regret saying “fuck I should have done this back then.” The reality is that some of these things I still want to do and can do with my time.
I REALLY like the excuse of “Im too old” or “I missed the wave.” Those two thoughts allow me to be a giant pussy from time to time. Never attacking the passions and goals I have. I hate the thought of starting over. Not making money and having to worry about finances makes me cringe. The sad reality is that I AM starting over now at 35 anyway. I quit my previous career over a year ago. I’ll get into that whole bag of shit at another time. Time is passing anyway so I should just start over doing something I love and have a passion to do.
An hour ago a friend texted me asking me about working out. She was talking about how she wanted to tone up and and she needed help. She lives near me so I just offered to train her a couple times a week. I got so excited when she said yes. I love training people. In general, I have a passion to help anyone reach any goal they may have. It’s a fucking amazing feeling. Plus, I figured it will force me to go a couple more times a week. It will be great way to get in summer shape for me as well.
All of the sudden I got that feeling of fire in my gut. That feeling of excitement to use my gifts and knowledge to help someone else. By helping others I get back such an amazing amount of fulfillment internally. This was gods way of giving me another kick in the ass saying “hey dumby this is what you should be doing with your time”
I started making some goals in my head. Get my training certifications. Write more. Start helping people reach their goals mentally and physically. Train people. Start a meal prep company like a friend of mine has in Baltimore (If you are down in the Baltimore area check him out https://www.facebook.com/fitfoods2you). Then the reasons started pouring in of why I cant do this.
- I already committed to business last year and spent a lot of time and effort working on it
- I have to get my training certificate and that’s hard and time consuming
- I should have done this 10 years ago when I first had the idea
- Im not good enough
- And most of all IM JUST PLAIN, OLD AFRAID TO LOOK STUPID AND FAIL
All those excuses for the most part are just bullshit. Yes, there is some truth and failing is a possibility. But I can fail doing shit I hate doing. Which has happened to me on several occasions. The reality is its easy too dream and hard to create. It takes a huge leap of faith into the unknown. It takes facing the fears of what could be the treacherous reality in the future. It takes courage, confidence and hard work ethic. I have lacked these three things in many aspects of my life over the years.
I fear putting myself out there and how others will receive me. I fear taking risks because I could fail and look less than to others and myself. I fear that I don’t have the capacity to handle the turmoil and hurt of failure. The funniest thing about this ridiculous fear is that for the vast majority of my life I took huge risks with my freedom to make a living. Its strange how that fear never stopped me even though it was always on my mind.
I keep reminding myself that all the things that made me safe and successful on the other side of the law can be applicable on the legit side. I need to develop the work ethic and courage to fall on my face a couple times and keep picking myself up. I need to be firm, but fair with myself and my abilities.
I have been out of the legitimate business world for such a long time. Many of the skills that made me successful 8-10 years ago in corporate America have rust on them. It will take time to polish them up and get them up to a speed that I feel is acceptable and truly produce results. Until that time I need to keep making mistakes and learning from them. Once my skills are at that level I will need to strive to keep getting better. Progressing by pumping out more and more reps and continuing to learn. Complacency is one of the most evil and dangerous character defects out there.
I see SO MANY people out there that have started out with much less of a cushion financially than I have and done SO MUCH more. Many of these same people also lacked many of the skills and abilities I have. They know much less about how a business is run and the inner workings of day to day operations. Very few have tasted the type of financial success I have and don’t fear living with less the way I do.
WHAT THESE PEOPLE DO NOT LACK IS CONFIDENCE, DRIVE, AND THE UNCANNY ABILITY TO CHASE THEIR DREAMS AND MAKE THEM A REALITY. They do not fear what others think. In their minds they are already successful. These types of attributes can’t be bought or faked. However, they can be learned. Every time you face your fears and take it head on, no matter what the outcome is you learn invaluable lessons about yourself and life. Those lessons are the building blocks to a happy, successful and fulfilling life. Just like reps in the gym. You build the muscles to change your life. You wont always come out on top but if you can keep pushing forward you will grow an amazing confidence in your abilities. You will be able to create the world around you that you always dreamed of. I have seen this happen to others around me in many different aspects of their lives, not just financially. It is something to truly revel